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The Position Occupied by Children

Children are a high priority in the church, for human community, and in Yahweh’s sight

  1. 18 At that time the disciples came up to Jesus, saying, “Who then is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” 2 And calling a child to himself, he had him stand in their midst 3 and said, “Truly I say to you, unless you turn around and become like young children, you will never enter into the kingdom of heaven! 4 Therefore whoever humbles himself like this child, this person is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven, 5 and whoever welcomes one child such as this in my name welcomes me. 6 But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him that ⌊a large millstone⌋ be hung on his neck and he be drowned in the depths of the sea. 7 Woe to the world because of causes for stumbling, for it is a necessity that causes for stumbling come; nevertheless, woe to the person through whom the cause for stumbling comes. 8 And if your hand or your foot causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it* from you! It is better for you to enter into life crippled or lame than, having two hands or two feet, to be thrown into the eternal fire! 9 And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it* from you! It is better for you to enter into life one-eyed than, having two eyes, to be thrown into fiery hell!10 “See to it that you do not despise one of these little ones, for I tell you that their angels in heaven constantly see the face of my Father who is in heaven. Matthew 18:1–9 (LEB)
  2. 13 And they were bringing young children to him so that he could touch them, but the disciples rebuked them. 14 But when* Jesus saw it,* he was indignant, and said to them, “Let the young children come to me. Do not forbid them, ⌊for to such belongs⌋ the kingdom of God. 15 Truly I say to you, whoever does not welcome the kingdom of God like a young child will never enter into it.” 16 And after* taking them* into his arms, he blessed them, placing his hands on them. Mark 10:13–16 (LEB)
  3. 36 And he took a young child and* had him stand ⌊among them⌋. And taking him in his arms, he said to them, 37 “Whoever welcomes one of the young children such as these in my name welcomes me, and whoever welcomes me does not welcome me, but the one who sent me.” Mark 9:36–37 (LEB)
  4. 15 But when* the chief priests and the scribes saw the wonderful things that he did, and the children shouting in the temple courts* and saying, “Hosanna to the Son of David!” they were indignant. 16 And they said to him, “Do you hear what these children* are saying?” So Jesus said to them, “Yes, have you never read, ‘Out of the mouths of children and nursing babies you have prepared for yourself praise’?” Matthew 21:15–16 (LEB)
  5. 2 From the mouth of children and infants you have founded strength on account of your enemies, to silence the enemy and the avenger. Psalm 8:2 (LEB)
  6. 41 And his parents went every year to Jerusalem for the feast of the Passover. 42 And when he was twelve years old, they went up according to the custom of the feast. 43 And after* the days were completed, while they were returning, the boy Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem. And his parents did not know it,* 44 but believing him to be in the group of travelers, they went a day’s journey. And they began searching for* him among their relatives and their acquaintances, 45 and when they* did not find him,* they returned to Jerusalem to search for him. 46 And it happened that after three days they found him in the temple courts,* sitting in the midst of the teachers and listening to them and asking them questions. 47 And all who heard him were amazed at his insight and his* answers. 48 And when they* saw him, they were astounded and his mother said to him, “Child, why have you done this to us? Look, your father and I have been searching for you anxiously!” 49 And he said to them, “⌊Why⌋ were you searching for me? Did you not know that it was necessary for me to be in the house of my Father?” 50 And they did not understand the statement that he spoke to them. 51 And he went down with them and came to Nazareth, and was submitting to them. And his mother treasured all these things in her heart. 52 And Jesus was advancing in wisdom and stature and in favor with God and with people. Luke 2:41–52 (LEB)

Here are some traditions surrounding apostleship :

  1. In our church, children should occupy much of our physical labor and manpower, our visual attention and focus, and our man hours and time spent.
  2. Childcare is a communal task that goes being biological patronage of guardianship: the responsibility to care for children present extends to all believers present.
  3. We must be sensitive to crimes and sins against children; we should prioritize them as especially egregious and dangerous. Poor treatment of a child is categorically worse than poor treatment of a healthy adult.

Children are a gift

Children are a gracious gift of Yahweh, a sign of his favor and a good thing.

  1. 5 Then Esau lifted up his eyes and saw the women and the children and said, “Who are these with you?” And he said, “The children whom God has graciously given your servant.” Genesis 33:5 (LEB)
  2. 9 He causes the barren woman of the house to dwell as the happy mother of children. Praise Yah! Psalm 113:9 (LEB)
  3. 3 Look, children are the heritage of Yahweh; the fruit of the womb is a reward. 4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. 5 Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them. They shall not be put to shame when they speak with enemies at the gate. Psalm 127:3–5 (LEB)
  4. 1 Blessed is everyone who fears Yahweh, who walks in his ways. 2 You will indeed eat of the labor of your hands; you will be happy and it will be well with you. 3 Your wife will be like a fruitful vine ⌊within⌋ your house. Your children will be like olive shoots about your table. 4 Look, for thus shall a man be blessed ⌊who fears Yahweh⌋. 5 May Yahweh bless you from Zion, that you may see the good of Jerusalem all the days of your life, 6 and that you may see your children’s children. May peace be upon Israel. Psalm 128:1–6 (LEB)

Anthropology of Children

Let's discuss the implications of being human and being a child biblically.

  1. 28 And God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it, and rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of heaven, and over every animal that moves upon the earth.” Genesis 1:28 (LEB)
  2. 5 This is the record of the generations of Adam. When God created Adam, he made him in the likeness of God. 2 Male and female he created them. And he blessed them. And he called their name “Humankind” ⌊when⌋ they were created. 3 And when Adam had lived one hundred and thirty years, he fathered a child in his likeness, according to his image. And he called his name Seth. 4 And the days of Adam after he fathered Seth were eight hundred years. And he fathered sons and daughters. 5 And all the days of Adam which he lived were nine hundred and thirty years, and he died.Genesis 5:1–5 (LEB)
  3. 21 And Yahweh smelled the soothing fragrance, and Yahweh said ⌊to himself⌋, “⌊Never again will I curse⌋ the ground for the sake of humankind, because the inclination of the heart of humankind is evil from his youth. ⌊Nor will I ever again destroy⌋ all life as I have done.Genesis 8:21 (LEB)

Children Need Watchful Instruction

Children must be watchfully instructed. Children do not know the difference between good and evil, right and wrong

  1. 6 Train the child ⌊concerning his way⌋; even when he is old, he will not stray from it. Proverbs 22:6 (LEB)
  2. 7 And you shall recite them to your children, and you shall talk about them at the time of your living in your house and at the time of your going on the road and at the time of your lying down and at the time of your rising up. Deuteronomy 6:7 (LEB)
  3. 19 And you shall teach them to your children by talking about them when you sit in your house and when you travel on the road and when you lie down and when you get up. Deuteronomy 11:19 (LEB)
  4. 7 So then, O Yahweh, you are my God. You have made your servant king in place of David my father though I am a young boy. I do not know going out or coming in. 8 Your servant is in the middle of your people whom you have chosen; a great people who cannot be counted or numbered because of abundance. 9 Give to your servant a listening heart to judge your people, to discern between good and bad, because who is able to judge this, your difficult people?”1 Kings 3:7–9 (LEB)
  5. 14 Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign. Look! the virgin is with child and she is about to give birth to a son, and she shall call his name ‘God with us.’ 15 He shall eat curds and honey until he knows to reject the evil and to choose the good. 16 For before the boy knows to reject the evil and to choose the good, ⌊the land whose two kings you dread will be abandoned.⌋Isaiah 7:14–16 (LEB)
  6. 4 And fathers, do not make your children angry, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4 (LEB)
  1. Children should be included in the instruction portion of our Shabbat gatherings. We place blankets on the ground, and reposition ourselves surrounding the children up at the front, directly in front of the instructor. We provide treats and have parents sit closeby to encourage children to receive what is being said.
  2. Instruction on Shabbat should never be so lofty that a child couldn’t walk away with one edifying lesson. Conversely, instruction on shabbat should include languages that offers at least one lesson that is easily understood and accessible to the weakest child present.
  3. When “privates” come up in discussion with children, we seek to use medical terms for their private parts in parlance, instead of euphemisms. While this can feel disconcerting at first, here are the reasons why: Predators often use code for the body parts of children when they perform lewd acts. Children do not have strong faculties of discernment, and struggle to distinguish between good and evil. If parents and communities insist on using euphemisms, then the child’s faculties of discernment are less likely to be alerted to malintent on the part of predators. This tradition's praxis causes the predator to raise red flags through inappropriate language, and trains/instructs the children to more readily categorize language as inappropriate or strange.

Children are weak

Children are weak. The actual practice of love in our age is bound up with weakness. We should be loving children especially, and particularly by guarding them protectively. Doctrine

  1. 6 For while* we were still helpless, yet at the proper time Christ died for the ungodly. 7 For only rarely will someone die on behalf of a righteous person (for on behalf of a good person possibly someone might even dare to die), 8 but God demonstrates his own love for us, in that while* we were still sinners, Christ died for us.Romans 5:6–8 (LEB)
  2. 18 For the message about the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God. 19 For it is written, “I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, and the intelligence of the intelligent I will confound.” 20 Where is the wise person? Where is the scribe? Where is the debater of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world? 21 For since, in the wisdom of God, the world through its wisdom did not know God, God was pleased through the foolishness of preaching to save those who believe. 22 For indeed, Jews ask for sign miracles and Greeks seek wisdom, 23 but we preach Christ crucified, to the Jews a cause for stumbling, but to the Gentiles foolishness, 24 but to those who are called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ is the power of God and the wisdom of God. 25 For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength. 26 For consider your calling, brothers, that not many were wise according to human standards, not many were powerful, not many were well born. 27 But the foolish things of the world God chose in order that he might put to shame the wise, and the weak things of the world God chose in order that he might put to shame the strong, 28 and the insignificant of the world, and the despised, God chose, the things that are not, in order that he might abolish the things that are, 29 so that all flesh may not boast before God. 30 But from him you are in Christ Jesus, who became wisdom to us from God, and righteousness and sanctification and redemption, 31 so that, just as it is written, “The one who boasts, let him boast in the Lord.”1 Corinthians 1:18–31 (LEB)
  3. 8 Be sober; be on the alert. Your adversary the devil walks around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. 9 ⌊Resist him⌋, steadfast in your faith, because you* know the same kinds of sufferings are being accomplished by your community of believers in the world.1 Peter 5:8–9 (LEB)
  4. 13 For such people are false apostles, deceitful workers, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. 14 And no wonder, for Satan himself disguises himself as an angel of light. 15 Therefore it is not a great thing if his servants also disguise themselves as servants of righteousness, whose end will be according to their deeds.2 Corinthians 11:13–15 (LEB)
  1. We use a particular definition of Love: strength covering weakness. This means we first rightly assess our strengths in truth (not perceived or wanted strengths, but actual strengths [e.g. spiritual gifts, sensitivity,skills, knowledge,station of life etc.]). We also rightly assess our weaknesses in truth (not whitewashed, downplayed weaknesses, but actual weaknesses). We then seek to do the same assessments for our neighbors. Armed with the truth in the form of right assessment, it is time to love: We think on how to wisely and maximally apply our strengths to our neighbors weakness; wisely because of aptness, gentleness and maximally in the sense that our neighbor’s weakness being covered as much as is possible is prioritized over and above our strength being used.
  2. Love, with this definition lived out, is best expressed with this pragmatic command: orbit the weak. In our church, we orbit the weak, we do not make them orbit our strength. There are competing weaknesses, so we prioritize the weakest among us, and work our way downward in priority to the strongest among us, any given area (for many among us are weak in one area, but strong in another; i.e. spiritual gifts). So practices we adopt as a church, have to have taken the weak into consideration first.
  3. Children should be allowed to be seated first for lunch, served first, and taken care of in the first portion and beginning of the love feast. Serving children is an easy way to symbolically “pantomime” the gospel and God’s love for us while we were yet weak, and sinners.